Christmas Past and Christmas Presents

Christmas is a time of presents and memories.Christmas presents came as a shock to Peg.
Growing up, my wife Peg and I had differentInstead of the one or two presents that she was
expectations at Christmas time. I was an onlyused to and expecting, I gave her dresses, shoes,
child until I turned fifteen, but Peg came from ajewelry and a number of other less expensive
family of seven children. Gifts abounded in mybut well-thought out and appropriate gifts. When
family. It was always easier than mentioning love,we visited my parents, she received a
but it was our way of showing it. Gifts in Peg'sdouble-dose of gifts. She was overwhelmed.
large family were limited, noise wasn't. Gifts fromLooking back I was probably wrong in raising the
both families were well thought out, however.bar for gift expectations, but I love giving gifts
When I wanted cap guns for Christmas I got capand I really enjoy buying her things. My gifts are
guns ... and of course one year Santa brought menot just a bunch of presents. They must be
a Shetland pony. When I wanted an English Racerperfect. I always try to come up with the perfect
bicycle, I got an English Racer. When I wanted agift ... sometimes I have to explain why they are
record player, I got a record player and whenthe perfect gift ... sometimes I have to explain
that was outdated I got a fancy reel-to-reel tapeseveral times, but I always think they are perfect.
recorder.Our other favorite Christmas came when the kids
We recently talked about childhood Christmaseswere fairly young. Our family was not planned.
and about our Christmases together.Our three children were born the first three years
Peg had two favorite Christmases as a child. Oneof our marriage. Peg was brought up Catholic. I
was when she received her doll, Lilly Rose. Peg stillwas Methodist. She had the rhythm and I had the
loves that doll. Today it sits disarmingly on a smallmethod. Together ... well, the fourth year we
hallway dresser. Her hair is swept up on her headdiscovered planning and bought a duplex near UPS.
much like Elsa Lanchester in the Bride ofThis particular year we didn't have a lot of
Frankenstein. The mechanical eyes of Lilly Rosemoney. From the kids Peg received a pasta
are a little bit off kilter, but she watches mecooker, which she treasured. Peg and I made
closely when I walk by. I swear the eyes followpresents for the kids. For the three of them I
me. I think the doll would do me bodily harm mebuilt a puppet theater, while Peg created hand
if I ever hurt Peggy. I'm not really afraid of thepuppets. For Del, the second oldest, I built a
doll, but my pace quickens as I pass.western fort, much like Fort Nisqually complete
On Peg's second favorite Christmas she receivedwith cowboys and Indians. For our youngest son
a game of Chinese Checkers and a world globe.Patrick, I built a castle with beer cans for towers
The marbles of the Chinese Checkers fitand turrets and spray painted it all gray. He also
perfectly in their holes. The mark of bad Chinesegot bags of plastic knights and horses. For
Checkers is shallow indentations that allow theAndrea, our eldest and only daughter, I built a
slightest breeze to start a marble stampede offdollhouse made from a large turquoise drawer
the board. Peg could play for hours ... much likerescued from the house that was torn down
she plays Spider Solitaire on the computer today.next door. Peg gathered little furniture and
The globe was a very inexpensive blow-up kindcrocheted doilies for floor coverings. Andrea still
and she was disappointed in that, perhaps evenhas the doilies.
embarrassed, but those feelings meant nothing toThe pasta maker is gone as are the puppet
her as her fingers traced distances from countrytheater, the puppets, the fort, the castle, and the
to country. And I think she loved dreaming aboutdollhouse. When asked about their favorite
all the places in the world she could visit. SomeChristmas memories, that Christmas stands out
things never change. In our home next to heras the best for each of the children ... of course
living room chair she has a world atlas. She stillfor some Christmases I was known to have
dreams.worn out the electronic games and radio
In our life together we both have the samecontrolled toys before they were even
favorite Christmases. Our first Christmas was atpresented, but that's another story.
our studio apartment on North Yakima. ItChristmas is a time for giving to family ... to
consisted of a tiny bathroom, a tiny kitchen and afriends ... to the community and for giving just the
living room with a bay window that gave us aright present ... and the right memory.
secluded view of a large hedge and lots ofOf all the gifts we give, I think that memories are
greenery.sometimes the best presents.