| I have often wondered why young people are so | | | | There are several reasons why one should keep |
| angry about everything. Young people especially | | | | a check on ones anger. Firstly, not getting angry |
| teenagers seem to have no control over this | | | | can ensure sound physical health by keeping blood |
| emotion at all. I voiced this thought to my | | | | pressure at normal levels, prevents heart disease |
| teenaged nephew Rahul. | | | | and stomach problems. It also ensures good |
| Prompt came his angry reply, "well why shouldn't | | | | mental health by preventing depression. |
| we be angry? We are made to suffer from | | | | If you discover that you are having difficulty in |
| identity crisis by you well meaning adults. When it | | | | managing and controlling your anger then here are |
| comes to helping dad in the office we are grown | | | | a few tips that might help you. |
| up and should spend at least a couple of hours of | | | | -Do not react to situations. Respond instead. That |
| our free time at the office. " | | | | is don't jump to conclusions without thinking the |
| "But when it comes to taking dad's car out we | | | | whole situation through in your head. This will help |
| not only have to beg but we also have to give a | | | | you rationalize and naturally your response will be |
| detailed agenda of where we are going that | | | | more befitting. |
| evening, who we are going with. And as if this is | | | | -Be responsible for your behavior - think of the |
| not enough we have to negotiate a deadline." | | | | consequences of your behavior on your life. |
| Now before we get deeper into this it is good to | | | | -Make a note of the things that tend to make |
| understand that anger is not a negative emotion. | | | | you angry. Be aware of them. This way you will |
| It is normal and natural to get angry sometimes. | | | | either be able to avoid getting angry or you will |
| It helps the system to release stress, anxiety and | | | | be more in control of the situation. |
| other harmful stuff. However, if anger is not kept | | | | -Look out for the clear physical changes that take |
| under control and managed well it can have | | | | place when you get anry. So, that the next time |
| hazardous consequences. | | | | they appear you know what to do. |
| It might be difficult for you to gauge when your | | | | -When you feel that you are beginning to get |
| anger is going out of hand. So, here are a few | | | | angry try to relax yourself by taking slow, deep |
| parameters that will help you | | | | breaths. |
| -Anything that does not go according to will or | | | | -Say the letters of the alphabet backwards Or |
| any deal that does not work out in your favour | | | | count one to ten. |
| makes you angry. This is a sure sign of | | | | -Go for a brisk walk - this will calm and relax you |
| intolerance which will lead to problems in | | | | considerably. |
| relationships with both peers and other adults. | | | | -Don't hang around the place or object that is the |
| -You react to a situation by exploding, yelling and | | | | cause of the anger. Try and go far away from it. |
| shouting, using foul language. | | | | -Talk the matter over with someone you trust. |
| -You tend to get trapped in the situation you | | | | -Write a journal. |
| seem not to be able to get out of the angry | | | | -Engage in some creative pursuit like - drawing |
| emotional state long after the incident is over. | | | | and painting, pottery making etc. |
| -You find that if your anger cannot be resolved | | | | Remember, if you want to be treated like an |
| you are willing to go to the extent of hurting | | | | adult it is important to behave like one. So, take |
| harming yourself to get even. | | | | charge of your life by controlling your anger. |